Still Jealous

Jealous of other happy, confident pregnant women

Yesterday I was leaving a Pilates class, and a woman I didn’t know was telling her friends that she was pregnant.   She was overjoyed and her friends were super ecstatic for her . . . and I’m really embarrassed to admit that I felt jealous. And I immediately thought, what am I doing? Why am I so jealous! This is ridiculous, I am pregnant! Me. Nicole. I am pregnant too. But it wasn’t the fact that there was another pregnant woman in the world that made me jealous. I was jealous because that woman was announcing her pregnancy with unbridled joy and a total disregard for anything horrible that could go wrong. She was content and confident whereas I have been afraid and anxious. She had her hope out for everyone to see while my little bubble of hope is buried deep inside of me. I protect it and covet it with every ounce of my being so that my heart doesn’t crack into a tiny million pieces if something goes wrong. I don’t have the same level of reckless exuberance like that woman . . . but I wish I did. It makes me sad when I realize that my own experiences have made me bitter and guarded. I try to tell myself, “All of this heartache will make you a better person one day.“ And I would love to believe that . . . but I’m not so sure. Right now, all I feel are sharp pangs of jealousy mixed with annoyance. . . .

2 responses to “Still Jealous”

  1. I can SOOO relate to this! I feel that jealousy, too. After three miscarriages and four years of ttc our current baby (due any day now), I just do NOT feel happy for other women when they had it easy. It’s hard. ((Hugs)) and congratulations!

    1. Yea, it is definitely hard to be happy after a miscarriage, and I still struggle with this whenever I see another pregnant woman (regardless of whether I know them or not)! Congratulations on your pregnancy too, and you’re so almost there!!! Happy, healthy delivery thoughts for you 🙂

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