nicole norstrud

I have been asking myself this question for 5 years. Has the cost, the invasive surgeries, the heartache, the anxiety, and the sacrifices we’ve had to make been worth it?

*sigh*

The short answer is yes. Everything we have done on our infertility journey has been worth it to get our two boys. The long answer is maybe . . . maybe not.   I am acutely aware that our infertility story ended on a high note. We underwent surgery, had a miscarriage, and then ultimately delivered a happy, healthy baby boy. Not every story ends this way. I don’t know the percentage, but there are plenty of women whose infertility journey does not end with a baby. And that could have been our story. I honestly believe that a large part of fertility and infertility treatment is simply luck. And had we not had any luck with IVF, I don’t believe I would have felt it was worth it in the end. Yes, I would have been content with the fact that we tried our hardest to conceive, but it is a small consolation prize compared to having a baby. Please don’t get me wrong, I am insanely thankful for our new son, and I count my blessings everyday. But it is impossible not to wonder about the “what-ifs”, especially if IVF had not worked for our family.